This song by Joni Mitchell and James Taylor haunts me:
It's coming on Christmas,
They're cutting down trees.
Putting up reindeer
Singing songs of joy and peace,
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
They're cutting down trees.
Putting up reindeer
Singing songs of joy and peace,
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
But it don't snow here,
Stays pretty green.
I'm gonna make a lot of money
Gonna quit this crazy scene.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
Stays pretty green.
I'm gonna make a lot of money
Gonna quit this crazy scene.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
I wish I had a river so long,
I would teach my feet to fly.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
I made my baby cry.
I would teach my feet to fly.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
I made my baby cry.
She tried hard to help me,
She put me at ease.
She loved me so naughty,
made me weak in the knees.
Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
She put me at ease.
She loved me so naughty,
made me weak in the knees.
Oh I wish I had a river I could skate away on.
I'm so hard to handle,
I'm selfish and I'm sad.
Now I've gone and lost the best baby
That I've ever had.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on...
I'm selfish and I'm sad.
Now I've gone and lost the best baby
That I've ever had.
Oh, I wish I had a river I could skate away on...
I'm copying and pasting a column by Cynthia Kiteley Lee which I found interesting and thought-provoking...
The Complexities of Christmas
Cynthia's Column
by Cynthia Kiteley Lee, Founder and Administrator
Mystical Order of the White Rose
Cynthia's Column
by Cynthia Kiteley Lee, Founder and Administrator
Mystical Order of the White Rose
Joy (to the world) and Peace (on earth goodwill to all) are
central themes of Christmas. They are wonderful ideals and energies that
some of us carry like warm coals close to our hearts in the cold days of
December.
The words peace and joy appear over and over again on Christmas
cards, in Christmas carols, and are spelled out in the Christmas lights that,
along with many other Christmas light decorations, brighten our longest nights
of the year and enchant us with their brightness and beauty.
And yet, Christmas can be very complicated, challenging, and far
from peaceful and joyful for many of us who celebrate it, as well as for many
who don't celebrate it, but who are strongly affected by the pervasive and
unavoidably extreme cultural focus on Christmas and its many traditions and
expressions during most of the weeks of December.
There is great and ever increasing diversity in our nation and in
the religious and spiritual affiliations and celebrations of its
citizens. December has many Holy Days and celebrations other than
Christmas, the best known of which in the United States are: Hanukkah,
celebrated by the Jews (eve of December 2 through the eve of December 10); The
Feast Day of Our Lady of Guadalupe, the patron saint of North America (December
12); Yule, the Pagan/Wiccan celebration of the Winter Solstice (December 21);
and the African-American celebration of Kwanzaa, which emphasizes African
traditions of unity, self-determination, collective work and responsibility,
cooperative economics, purpose, creativity, and faith. (December 26 to
January 1). To view the dozens more December Sacred Days and Days of Remembrance
from a dizzying variety of traditions, visit this link for The Mystic's Wheel
of the Year--A Multi-faith Calendar Reflecting Eco-Egalitarian Spirituality:
There are also many people who are atheists or agnostics without
any spiritual or religious conceptual framework or affiliation, who may or may
not choose to embrace some of the Christmas celebration traditions in an essentially
secular way. Honoring and embracing diversity calls upon us to be
sensitive and tactful. As mystics, contemplatives, and monastics we
are able to help create and maintain peace on earth and extend good will to
all, regardless of our or their spiritual and religious affiliations (or
lack thereof). I assure you that our spiritual and religious affiliations
are extremely diverse, and often include a relationship with more than one
spiritual or religious tradition.
The Economics of Christmas
There is an extreme retail sales focus on Christmas, especially in
the United States, where we have long been considered to be a country and
people consumed by consumerism. The definition of consumerism is:
"the theory that an increas-ing consumption of goods is economically
desirable; also: a preoccupation with and an inclination toward the buying of
consumer goods.[1]"
The intense emphasis on Christmas-related shopping and purchases
has created a backlash or "push back" from many Americans who feel that
Christmas has become tainted and corrupted by its heavily promoted consumer
frenzy aspects. Those who feel this way often choose to limit or
altogether withdraw from the celebration of Christmas.
Christmas is typically the largest annual economic stimulus for
many nations around the world. In the United States: "The
holiday season is just around the corner and it’s truly the best time of the
year for both consumers and retailers of all shapes and sizes. Since the
recession in 2008, Christmas holiday retail sales in the United States have
grown steadily. In 2018, Christmas retail sales were forecast to grow to
about 719.17 billion U.S. dollars; a 4.55 percent increase from the previous
year. The amount of money that U.S. consumers plan to spend on gifts has also
increased. [2] Christmas is also a boon for people wanting employment, as
hundreds of thousands of seasonal sales clerks are hired to help handle the
sharp spike in sales.
The Not So Merry Aspects of Christmas
There are many stressful and challenging aspects of the Christmas
season, even though the usual activities and traditions of the season are
deeply cherished and enjoyed by many of the people engaging in them, while
others (grinches?) consider them just one more energy and/or money-draining
obligation on a too long to-do list.
Many of these Christmas season stresses are related to the complex
logistical, time, task, and financial management aspects of the approximately
month-long Christmas season (typically from Thanksgiving Day in late November
through Christmas day in the United States). These can include: erecting
and decorating one or more Christmas trees; mailing Christmas cards and parcels
of presents; shopping for and wrapping presents; attending Christmas parties;
going to Christmas community events (parades, Christmas light tours, fairs,
taking children to visit "Santa Claus" at the mall); attending
Christmas-themed cultural events (concerts, plays, movies); decorating for
Christmas, which can be simple or elaborate, depending on personal
proclivities; and oftentimes hosting and cooking for Christmas eve or Christmas
day family and/or friends gatherings, and accommodating out of town overnight
family and friends.
Just thinking and writing about all these activities makes me feel
a bit tired; actually undertaking and completing them can be exhausting.
Drinking alcohol-laden eggnog, punches, and wines and liquors; and consuming
sugar and carb-heavy Christmas cookies, pies, cakes, and other delicious foods
at Christmas parties; combined with some late nights of partying--while they
can all be wonderfully enjoyable--tend to upset our physical form and its
processes, and take awhile to recover from.
There is also Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a mood disorder
subset in which people who have normal levels of mental health most of the year
exhibit depressive symptoms at the same time each year, most commonly in the
winter. Common symptoms include: sleeping too much, having little
to no energy, and overeating (Wikipedia). The primary cause of this disorder is
believed to be related to the reduced amount of daylight in the autumn and
winter months. Light therapy is available to help to reduce the negative
impacts of this disorder.
Other stresses of the season have to do with the complexities of
the human heart and psyche, and the sweet--and sometimes not so sweet--memories
we have of celebrating Christmases in the past with family and friends
who have died, chosen to end their relationship with us (or vice versa), or who
live far away.
The human heart and psyche are deep and rich and multi-layered,
harboring enormous depths of abounding love and forgiveness, and deep, even
soul deep, woundings by family and loved ones.
Negative thoughts and intense negative feelings about our past and
present close relationships--or the lack thereof--are often triggered by
Christmas-related activities during the weeks leading up to it, causing painful
periods of grief, depression, and negative reflections about ourself and/or
others, and our lives.
I have a friend whose wife died this November. They were
happily married for 47 years, and spent the last 47 Christmas season
celebrations together, so this holiday season has been and will continue to be
painful for him, despite the loving support of stepchildren, step-grandchildren,
and old friends. The 24-year-old son of a woman I know died suddenly
earlier this year; this will be her first Christmas without him. She too
has supportive friends and other family members, but this traumatic loss is
likely to haunt her holiday celebrations.
My husband Richard's son, who is now 22-years-old and in college,
chose to end all interactions with his dad more than four years ago. Prior to
this they would see each other two or three times a year for a meal in a
restaurant that usually took place with his sister and were not made known to
their mother, who divorced Richard about 10 years ago. Richard was a
passionately engaged and stable, loving father to his son and daughter
(24-years-old) who relocated with their mother to another town in Mississippi
when his son was 12 and his daughter 14. Even though there were legal
child custody rulings that gave Richard generous visitation privileges, his
ex-wife (who had/has some mental health issues and was physically and verbally
abusive to Richard and her daughter) did not comply with them and pressured her
son to not be at home whenever his father arrived for a scheduled visit.
Richard's daughter chose to maintain a very loving relationship with her
father, but after physical and verbal abuse from her mother for doing so when
she was a teenager in high school, she chose to keep her visits to and
interactions with him secret. The passage of time has many healing properties,
but some wounds don't heal quickly or completely.
A priest in a church I attended years ago often told members of
the congregation to "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard
battle," a quote from Ian MacLaren. Whether we are fighting internal
battles or struggling with painful memories, thoughts, and feelings ourselves--or
not--during this Christmas season, as agents of love and grace, empathy and
compassion, we can give ourselves and others the gifts of unconditional love;
nurturing our and others' bodies, minds and spirits; extending kindness;
affection (including giving and receiving touch and hugs); offering
intercessory prayers; and compassion.
The Joys of Christmas and Other December Holy Days
The particulars of our December winter sacred celebrations vary
widely, but the common threads that join us in the family of humanity are: love
of family, reverence and respect for our family's religious and cultural
traditions and beliefs, joy in family gatherings and celebrations, joy in
experiencing the songs, chants, music, and rituals associated with the celebrations,
and pleasure in the consumption of special holy day/holiday foods and
drinks. In the northern hemisphere we also rejoice in the return of the
light; the shift in solar energies that causes the days to grow gradually
longer, and the nights shorter. This shift begins after the Winter
Solstice (December 21).
As for peace, we may be able to experience it personally, but
millennia of human experience make it clear that our world is not (yet) a
peaceful one in terms of the absence of external conflict, war, hatred, and
violence. Inner peace is a gift to ourselves, others, and the world we live in,
and is a powerful energy that radiates outward in subtle yet profoundly
positive ways through spiritually-grounded individuals, groups, and
communities.
Fortunately, the universal spiritual practices of meditation,
prayer, reflection, and contemplative and compassionate living support us in
connecting with deep and nourishing levels of joy and peace, and maintaining
them in the midst of life's many challenges and complexities.
Christmas at Hogwarts
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